Sexless Marriage

According to recent review in the USA, nearly 20 million duo have a sexless marriage.  Relationship specialist define this makes of federation as one in which the duo engages in sexual privacy no more than ten times in a year.  For some couples, that makes of view may actually claim them just fine, but for the majority, it is a problem, and a serious one at that. 
Sex is a very important components of marriage, and anyone who test to convince you otherwise, is foolish.  When a union is devoid of sexual intimacy, it tins stir some challenging sentiment for one or both partners.  Frustration, anger, bitterness, resentment, and regretfulness are some of those emotions.  Also, a sexless amalgamation is particularly vulnerable to infidelity, and ultimately, divorce. 
If you are living in a sexless marriage, following are some of the reasons it may be happening.  If you can determine the underlying issue (assuming you don’t know what it is) then you can work towards finding a solution.

For men, there are a variety of reasons why they have either lost interest in sex itself or lost desire for their wife.  Some of the most reasons why men are the ones creating a sexless marriage are:

•    His wife doesn’t like to be adventurous when it comes to sex
•    His wife doesn’t really enjoy having sex
•    His wife doesn’t turn him on –  he is no longer attracted to her
•    His wife has gained a lot of weight
•    He has erectile dysfunction
•    He is involved in an affair
•    He’s bored in the relationship


For women, some of the problems are similar, but there are often some different reasons they may be creating a sexless marriage as well:

•    Her husband treats her like an object – to her, sex feels like it is all about him
•    She likes more traditional sex; he wants to do things she’s not comfortable with
•    Her husband has let himself go and she is no longer attracted to him
•    She’s angry at her husband
•    She’s depressed
•    She has a difficult time reaching orgasm

There are many other reasons for both men and women, but those are just a few that are often reported.

So what are some things you can do if you have found yourself co-existing with your spouse in a sexless marriage?

First, it is imperative that you open up the lines of communication.  Not talking about it is like ignoring the very large elephant in the room in most cases.  Continuing to ignore it or tiptoe around it is only going to result in the two of you growing further apart over time.
                                                                                                                                
Sex is a powerful way to connect with each other, but particularly for men.  While women are generally more comfortable talking about their feelings and expressing love in a variety of ways, many men show love and affection via sex.  If yours is a sexless marriage, that connection is likely to wane, if not disappear altogether.  Talking is very important to address the issue as well as to determine the best course of action to take.

Second, as you talk, determine in what ways each of you can compromise so that the relationship is sexually satisfying to both of you.  If the problem, for example, is that one of you is much more adventurous than the other, perhaps you can find some middle ground which is mutually satisfying to both of you.

Third, if anger, bitterness or resentment is resulting in a sexless marriage, you must both be willing to get to the bottom of that issue and work through it.  It may be that you need a therapist to help you, but one way or the other, letting go of angry or hurt feelings is vital to getting your marriage back on track.  True intimacy cannot occur when hostility is present.  The sooner you can forgive and let go, the sooner you can begin to have an emotionally and sexually fulfilling relationship.

Solution To Your Problem :Adventures in Creative Thinking

How dozens times have you caught yourself expression that there could be no other answer to a difficulty – and that that controversy leash to a dead end? How dozens times have you felt stumped knowing that the reservation placing before you is one you cannot solve. No leads.  No options.  No solutions.  Did it emotion like you had exhausted all possible selection and yet are still before the obstacle – large, unconquerable, and impregnable? When encountering such enormous problems, you may sense like you're hammering against a steel mountain. The burden of owning to solve such a reservation may be overwhelming.
But rejoice! There might be some hope yet!

With some creative problem-solving techniques you may be able to look at your problem in a different light. And that light might just be the end of the tunnel that leads to possible solutions.

First of all, in the light of creative problem-solving, you must be open-minded to the fact that there may be more than just one solution to the problem. And, you must be open to the fact that there may be solutions to problems you thought were unsolvable.

Now, with this optimistic mindset, we can try to be a little bit more creative in solving our problems.

Number one; maybe the reason we cannot solve our problems is that we have not really taken a hard look at what the problem is. Here, trying to understanding the problem and having a concrete understanding of its workings is integral solving the problem. If you know how it works, what the problem is, then you have a better foundation towards solving the problem.

Not trying to make the simple statement of what problem is. Try to identify the participating entities and what their relationships with one another are. Take note of the things you stand to gain any stand to lose from the current problem. Now you have a simple statement of what the problem is.

Number two; try to take note of all of the constraints and assumptions you have the words of problem. Sometimes it is these assumptions that obstruct our view of possible solutions. You have to identify which assumptions are valid, in which assumptions need to be addressed.

Number three; try to solve the problem by parts. Solve it going from general view towards the more detailed parts of the problem. This is called the top-down approach. Write down the question, and then come up with a one-sentence solution to that from them. The solution should be a general statement of what will solve the problem. From here you can develop the solution further, and increase its complexity little by little.

Number four; although it helps to have critical thinking aboard as you solve a problem, you must also keep a creative, analytical voice at the back of your head. When someone comes up with a prospective solution, tried to think how you could make that solution work. Try to be creative. At the same time, look for chinks in the armor of that solution.

Number five; it pays to remember that there may be more than just one solution being developed at one time. Try to keep track of all the solutions and their developments. Remember, there may be more than just one solution to the problem.

Number six; remember that old adage," two heads are better than one." That one is truer than it sounds. Always be open to new ideas. You can only benefit from listening to all the ideas each person has. This is especially true when the person you're talking to has had experience solving problems similar to yours.

You don't have to be a gung-ho, solo hero to solve the problem. If you can organize collective thought on the subject, it would be much better.

Number seven; be patient. As long as you persevere, there is always a chance that a solution will present itself. Remember that no one was able to create an invention the first time around.

Creative thinking exercises can also help you in your quest be a more creative problems solver.

Here is one example.

Take a piece of paper and write any word that comes to mind at the center. Now look at that word then write the first two words that come to your mind. This can go on until you can build a tree of related words. This helps you build analogical skills, and fortify your creative processes.

So, next time you see a problem you think you can not solve, think again. The solution might just be staring you right in the face. All it takes is just a little creative thinking, some planning, and a whole lot of work.